We have found many books that can be helpful. They contain wisdom about taking care of yourself as well as parenting your grieving children. There are even some books that your children will find helpful.
Neff, K. (2011). Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself. Harper Collins:
Written by psychologist and self-compassion expert Kristin Neff, this book is a guide for treating yourself with more kindness, which can lead to greater health and happiness.
Germer, C. K. (2009). The Mindful Path to Self-Compassion: Freeing Yourself from Destructive Thoughts and Emotions. Guilford Press:
Written by therapist and researcher Christopher Germer, this book focuses on increasing mindfulness and self-compassion. Guided exercises are available for free on the website.
Neff, K., & Germer, C. K. (2018). The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook: A Proven Way to Accept Yourself, Build Inner Strength, and Thrive. Guilford Publications:
This workbook by self-compassion experts Kristin Neff and Christopher Germer is full of exercises and practices designed to increase self-compassion that can be done at your own pace.
Goldstein, E. (2015). Uncovering Happiness: Overcoming Depression With Mindfulness and Self-Compassion. Simon & Schuster:
Written by psychologist Elisha Goldstein, this book focuses specifically on bringing self-compassion to depression through seven steps.
Salzberg, S. (1997). Lovingkindness: The Revolutionary Art of Happiness. Shambala:
This book by meditation teacher Sharon Salzberg is a resource for increasing love, kindness, and happiness in your life.
Pollak, S. (2019). Self-Compassion for Parents: Nurture Your Child by Caring for Yourself. Guildford Press:
A resource specifically for parents on caring for both yourself and your children by mindfulness teacher and psychologist Susan Pollak.
Bluth, K. (2017). The Self-Compassion Workbook for Teens: Mindfulness and Compassion Skills to Overcome Self-Criticism and Embrace Who You Are. New Harbinger:
Written by psychologist Karen Bluth, this workbook contains exercises adapted from Kristin Neff and Christopher Germer’s work on self-compassion and is designed specifically for teens.
Garcia, G. (2017). Listening With My Heart: A story of Kindness and Self-Compassion. Gabi Garcia Books:
Written by school counselor Gabi Garcia, this is a story for children about being kind to yourself and to others. The book contains self-compassion exercises for children.
Silverman, P. & Kelly, M. (2009). A Parent’s Guide to Raising Grieving Children: Rebuilding Your Family After the Death of a Loved One. Oxford University Press:
Written by one of the leading figures in understanding children’s grief Phyllis Silverman and grieving parent Madelyn Kelly, this book discusses the challenges for parents raising grieving children and includes practical advice for parents.